Sunday, March 27, 2011

If you are willing to be wrong, you are willing to fail. Is that what you really want?

Socialism is a philosophy of failure, the creed of ignorance and the gospel of envy, its inherent value is the equal sharing of misery 
Winston Churchill

Let me first say that the words, ‘wrong’ and ‘fail’ and the concepts that they commonly reflect are ones which I personally have little time for.  But they are words and concepts that have very powerful meanings for most people and consequently seriously affect their ability to play with passion and experiment freely on Ground Infinity.

What does it mean to be *wrong*?  The concept of *wrong* is based on a belief that certain things shouldn’t happen.  

To me, this is a denial of the reality in Ground Infinity that all things are possible and as such, can and do manifest in some form or other.

I prefer not to live with such a denial.  

I prefer to accept that all things are possible though not always desirable in relation to the goals I have chosen for myself and the outcomes I desire.

Consequently, when things happen that don’t appear to align with my goals, I don’t tend to see them as things that shouldn’t have happened, or things that are *wrong*.

There are no aberrations in life, only events that don’t conform to our expectations and beliefs.  

Is there any value in seeing things this way?  I believe there is.

When I see things as *wrong*, I am quarreling with reality.  What’s the point in that?  

I’d rather see them as things I don’t like or prefer or find useful and refocus my energy and attention on creating what I like, prefer and find useful.

In other words, I don’t have to fight with what I perceive to be *wrong* and channel my energy and attention to them.  In fact, by pouring energy and attention on them, I actually feed them and create more of what I don’t want.

How about *failure*? 

We say we’ve failed when we have not achieved what we set out to achieve.  If that was all failure meant to us, we’d be fine.  However, for most people, failure is a lot more personal.  

It is often experienced as an indictment on our intelligence, our capabilities and even our morality.  In this sense, a failure is closely related to a *wrong*, something that shouldn’t happen.

Which brings me to the point that I set out to make in this post:

If you are willing to be *wrong*, you are willing to *fail*.  

In other words, if you buy into the notion that things shouldn’t have happened (despite the fact that they have and can likely happen again), then every time such a thing happens, you will have failed.

I certainly don’t thrive on a sense of failure that is a personal indictment on my intelligence, capabilities or ethics.  Do you?

On the other hand, I do thrive on the recognition of the fact that I can always experiment with what I have and know and continue to expand on what I have and know and in the process, move further and faster in the direction of my goals.

I find this an infinitely more empowering and joyous way of living my life than whittling it away by being willing to be *wrong* and willing to *fail*.

Does this mean that I am never sorry for things that may have happened which I may have personally contributed to and which may have resulted in someone feeling hurt, for example?  

Well, no, not quite.  I certainly don’t wish anyone any kind of pain and I am always willing to express this sentiment.  

But that is not the same thing as saying that something never should have happened.  It happened.  And given its particular antecedents, it was inevitable. 

So, yes, I am sorry insofar as I do not wish or enjoy the hurt or pain that someone, including myself, experiences.  But I don’t conclude that what happened was *wrong* and that I *failed*.  

I do use the event or incident, however, as a source of learning and deeper understanding and of fine-tuning the way I go about achieving my goals.  

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